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In my opinion, a woman’s strength lies in her ability to imagine herself as strong.

We are creatures of the mind. If we believe ourselves to be capable, we are. If we believe ourselves to be practical, we can be. If we trust in ourselves; our own instincts, our own intellect, our own worthiness, we can stand tall and steady in our own environments and support everyone around us. Those women that imagine themselves to be a pillar of strength at the centre of their families and loved ones are just that. Sadly, it is equally applicable that we woman are perfectly capable of imagining ourselves into dark and lonely corners where nothing and no one finds us of any use or value.

A man for three days

This may of course be equally applicable to men. But I cannot speak for men – I have no experience at all (sad to say – it would be a cool experiment for a day or two at least. In fact, that goes straight to the top of my bucket list: try on being male for three days. Do let me know if that’s ever possible). The great book; ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus‘ teaches us to cherish our differences, so I might only assume that men are also rather different in this respect. Perhaps they are less prone to being able to simply think themselves into irrelevance, or perhaps this is one of those traits that has equal relevance to both sexes?

Imagine that!

I have a friend who is perfectly capable of imagining herself to be as beautiful as Pocahontas (the sexy cartoon version, rather than the rather austere human female) – to the extent that she has been spotted gliding out of her bedroom in a full Indian squaw outfit looking as endearing and delicious as the original. Don’t get me wrong. She is already rather beautiful. However, there are very few people born with that glowing sense of perfect form and grace that comes so easily out of the pens of the Disney animators. Armed with her inner imagination, this Disney glow becomes not only possible but routinely achievable for my friend.

Yet, she struggles to believe she is capable of being unselfish in a relationship. She imagines herself as difficult to love. Odd, as she is naturally one of the least selfish people I know and I have found it rather easy to love her since the moment we met.

When she finds herself dwelling on this imagined flaw of hers she begins to pick apart her closest partnerships, believing that she is incapable of maintaining long-term love. She seems to find it more than easy to imagine herself alone again, and by imagining it, she begins to believe it is her destiny. Sadly, she is just as capable of turning these more negative inner visions into reality as she is of magicking herself into Disneyland.

Why do women do this to themselves?

Think strong. Be strong.